Heal your wounded inner child
If you experienced childhood trauma, know that you are not alone and it was never your fault. You were an innocent and pure child. Throughout your life, you adapted, people pleased and repressed your emotions just to survive in this world. But now as an adult, you finding it hard just to survive since you know there is so much more within you that wants to be happy, free, thrive and at peace. That part of you knows there is so much more to life that struggling, suffering and surviving.
When we don't heal our traumas, we pass them on to our children and all future generations. Some of our traumas are not even ours, they have been passed on from our ancestors. Doing this work heal not just us, our parents, ancestors but also future generations. This is powerful work!
Unhealed childhood trauma manifests as :
-People pleasing
-need to prove yourself
-looking for external validation
-fixing others
-co-dependency
-fear of abandonment
- ignore own needs to look other others
-difficulty setting boundaries
-tolerates abusive behaviour
Heal your wounded inner child and your true authentic adult self will appear!
Children need unconditional love, nurturing, compassion and acceptance from their parents/carers in order to grow and mature.
They also need to be seen, heard and accepted. Adults who did not receive these gifts in childhood must learn self-love, self-accept, and/or impulse control. Inner child work is about changing our relationship with our wounded inner child from one of self-loathing and rejection to one of love and acceptance.
When healing occurs, the wounded inner child can heal and grow, and his/her life becomes much more meaningful, joyful, and fulfilling.
Anyone can benefit from Inner Child Healing, but it is especially helpful for those who have had a difficult childhood, including those who have:
- Physical, verbal or sexual abuse
- Mother/ father wounds
- Feel abandoned
- Feel traumatised- PTSD
- Social anxiety
- Relationship issues with partner
- Bullying at school
- Had controlling parents or teachers
- Adopted
- Narcissistic parents
- Feel like they are the black sheep of the family
- Been in a car or home accident
- Forced to be the ‘good girl’ or ‘obedient boy’
- Was very much overprotected and suppressed at home
- Been constantly criticized at home
- Very strict parenting
- Had to adhere to every rules and regulations
- Been severely punished by parents, teachers or authority
- Been laughed, bullied, ridiculed by friends at school
- Been put down by teacher in the class
- Not allowed to express your true feelings
- Been told showing emotions or crying is wrong especially boys and men
- Been forced to fulfill your parents expectations or dreams
- Growing up with parents who had addictions at home
- Carrying lots of trapped emotions like shame, guilt, fear, anger, rage
Heal your wounded inner child and your true adult self will appear
We all have an inner child within us who is craving to be seen, heard, accepted and loved. Our childhood trauma still is buried within us which causes us to get triggered for apparently no reason…the anger, frustration, disappointment that come from nowhere?
If we look back at our childhood we can see that some of our most basic needs were not met. Maybe we had all the material possessions but lacked love, hugs, affection and nurturing from our parents or caregivers. Or we experienced abuse or trauma at the very hands of those that were meant to look after us.
As soon as we are born, we are completely dependent upon caregivers. So, we learn to conform to their expectations or even please them for survival. But this comes at a great expense as by conforming, we lose of our true authentic self and essence.
Embracing our inner child and meeting their needs is very nourishing, liberating and empowering.
Benefits of healing the wounded Inner Child
If you notice that you are reliving your childhood issues like feeling rejected, unloved, abandoned, lonely especially in relationships, it is time to do inner child work. Childhood issues reappear in adulthood so we can heal them and not repeat the same patterns.
So, who needs or would benefit from Inner Child Healing? Well, all of us! It’s been said that the vast majority of us are carrying emotional baggage from our childhood.
You may have feelings of not being good enough, low self-worth, feeling insecure, fear of abandonment, struggle with self-doubt or suffer from anxiety. You may people please rescue, need to fix or seek external validation. Or may be you have difficulty speaking up or saying no, have trouble setting boundaries and have codependency patterning and feel stuck. These are all indications of unhealed wounds and can show up in any or all areas of our life.
Inner Child Healing will improve your romantic relationships
Unless we are aware of it, we often seek the same dynamic in our romantic relationships as we experienced in our childhood. We often gravitate towards something that feels familiar because at least we know what are dealing with.
If you often choose emotionally unavailable partners, you may experience a lot of relationship anxiety. The partner is for their own unresolved childhood trauma is unable to offer you the security you need and you may end up engaging in various behaviours to get their attention, such as nagging, excessive messaging, oversharing or other behaviours that may feel unsettling for your partner.
Also if you get triggered a lot in a relationship, it is clear sign that one or both partners are operating from their wounded inner child.
How Does Inner Child Healing work?
Inner child healing is a very simple but powerful healing! It is a gentle process where you are safely guided to meet your wounded inner child. In short, the child’s emotions (anger, sadness, fear, shame, guilt, hurt, etc) that were frozen and repressed are acknowledged and felt. And this is so liberating! Imagine how you would feel when you release these painful emotions from your body!
With many of these early beliefs, it is possible to regress right back to the very first time our Inner Child developed this belief. Using our adult perspective, we can change this belief, and then develop a new understanding about the circumstances of our childhood. We can start to remember that we are deeply lovable and create a new positive belief patterns about ourselves at a deep unconscious level. Finally we bring back part of your soul that left during the trauma through a Soul retrieval. We also use the integrate some special qualities that are inherent within us such as feelings of self-confidence, strength and self-acceptance among others. The process is very simple and all you have to do is relax as I gently guide you the whole process. It is a very empowering technique.
As well as working on the nervous system, emotions, beliefs, the somatic level, we also work on patterns of behaviour like:
- people pleasing
- co-dependency
- seek external validation
- looking to fix others than healing oneself
- fear of abandonment
- not meeting own emotional needs
- cannot set boundaries
- attracts narcissistic partners
- does not feel safe and is hyper-vilgilant
Inner child work helps us to tune in and feel our feelings, sensations and emotions, creating a a safe space to release, validate and accept all our emotions and our shadow.
All Inner Child Healing sessions are different as they are tailored for your individual needs and may include the following:
- finding out the source of the original trauma -the beliefs and emotional holding-anger, shame, guilt, fear, confusion, grief
- giving the child a voice- by allowing the child to express and release unsaid feelings and words, he/she feels heard and thus empowered
- fulfilling unmet needs
- learn any lessons from that childhood experience
- moving to resolution and closure. You feel an inner peace after integration.
Inner Child Healing is a simple and safe process which often results in powerful life changing transformations. How is getting stuck in your life costing you? Is it time to free yourself and change your life?
Are you ready?
to meet your inner child?
to identify, discharge and release childhood trauma?
validate your experiences as a child?
to listen what your inner child has to say?
to embrace and free your inner child?
to free yourself from emotional baggage you have been carrying for years?
voice your opinion to authority which you could not do as a child
It is time to heal the trauma, abuse or event that shut you down at childhood. It holds your truth and freedom. Your inner child deserves to be free, have fun, be loved and happy!
Book here and free your adult Self so you can be free, happy and at peace with yourself.
I have facilitated hundreds of inner child process and I know how liberating it is and it is my purpose to help you embrace your inner child and free yourself.